Sorry seems to be the hardest word!!!!

Have you ever hurt someone so badly and never had the courage to apologise??? have you ever felt guily for your mistake and could not say sorry!!! do it before its too late!!!

well its common that some people say sorry very easily…and some cannot utter a simple word SORRY for something which was their mistake!!! apologising is not something which comes very easily to us…we indulge into all kinds of non sense arguments and get pursuaded by every other thing than accepting your mistake…but face the facts…sometimes saying ‘I am sorry’ can really help.

Psychologically if you explain…its our super ego dominating and being moralistic..and not accepting the reality due to high positive self regard..its when our conscious does not accept the damage we’ve done to someone important and try to supress it…but deep down we are not comfortable with ourselves though we pretend to..and the guilt feeling keep pricking us..!!!

Therefore if you have hurt someone or know that you have angered someone it is good if you accept it and put aside all your pride and apologise for what you have done!! we all make mistakes..sometimes they are minute..and sometimes severe..but best is to acknowledge them and be sorry..and move ahead with your life.

there s a saying we often hurt whome we love..i dont agree..have you not shown your dominance on a road side beggar..why beggar your own house maid..and have hurt them deeply through your words…ok now if you cant say them sorry..be good to them from next time..thats the least expected out of you right..!!

when it comes to family…the present Generation we keep hearing dont respect their elders..hmmm..now we as the Gen next..is it really true…i say yes..it is…i have seen young kids..who have just started college..talking rudely to their parents..but guys remember parents or in general elders are the one s because of which we are in this world today!!! Sibling rivalry…hah..very common..even i fight with my brother..infact fight is not the right word…we wrestle like cats and dogs but its k i feel..unless its not killing you jokes apart on serious note…there are times when you really hurt them…so keep put your dominance and pride of being elder on a hold and say SORRY..I just tell him…’I need you ya..atleast to fight’ it really makes a difference..!!!

however this does not mean that you lose your own temper..if someone has done something to make you angry..then its important to let them know how and in what way they have angered or hurt you..and ya you have to do this without putting that person down or being unkind!!!

FRIENDS…dont you think we hurt them the most…by saying something we should not have..or by breaking their trust…yeah we do..actually its equal everywhere…we hurt our parents too..by breaking their trust..and as said before..put aside your ego..if that friend really means a lot to you..and be sorry for your mistake..if you dont like that person but have hurt him/her…apologise…cause this is the best way to win hearts!!! i have often seen people getting hurt when they were in so called LOVE…bf/gf dumping them..using them..mistrusting them…but expect them to be just friend atleast as they respect them a lot but dont love…how can a person accept someone they love just as a friend..and not just that..they know that this is the person who have hurt them the most but not being SORRY…so guys and gals on the other side..APOLOGISE…coz thats the best way to say u care…and are being guilty for the damage done..dont bother if that person does not forgive you..but you have let your heart free from burden right and have made them aware atleast in a small way that you are guilty??

Apologising is always the right thing to do..it makes you feel much better..even though things may never be the same again!!! Refusing to apologise is not a sign of strenght per se..but a sign of weakness..look at this way, one who refuses to say they’re sorry is doing so our of fear as to whether they ll be accepted again…but one who admits he or she was wrong and asks for forgiveness is acting out of courage..!!

so remember guys…if you have really hurt someone..its the right time now..acknowledge it and be sorry..dont know if the other person will forgive you..it depends on him/her..but you ll be at utter peace..and what ever you sow..so you reap..may be you ll be forgiven in some other way by god..apply your own strategy to be sorry..confess your thoughts,gift flowers or anything they like…or even sing a song..thats upto you..but dont make this hardest word so hard to reveal There is no harm in being sorry if you have done the mistake…be it one percent too..!! and yeah..before everything..apologise God for hurting someone…the task will become easy for sure so waiting for whom…make a list as to how many people you have hurt…and apolpgise this will increase your self regard and shall improve your relationships for sure..be a good person in your eyes that what really matters..respect others..you ll start respecting yourself

hold on its not yet over..one song that really touches my heart for being sorry and apologising is ‘THE REASON’ by Hoobastank….if that person really means someone important to you..or was someone important…try out..it might melt them..cause it does melt me i can just provide you the lyrics..learning the song is up to you

Am not a perfect person, there’s many things I wish I didn’t do..

But I continue learning; I never meant to do those things to you..

And so I have to say before I go that I just want you to know..

I’ve found a reason for me, to change who I used to be..

A reason to start over new… and the reason is YOU!!!

 

Am sorry that I hurt you, its something I must live with everyday..

And all the pain I put you through, I wish that I could take it all away..

And be the one who catches all your tears..

That’s why I need you to hear..

 I’ve found a reason for me, to change who I used to be..

A reason to start over new… and the reason is YOU!!!

 

Am not a perfect person, I never meant to do those things to you..

And so I have to say before I go that I just want you to know..

I’ve found a reason for me, to change who I used to be..

A reason to start over new… and the reason is YOU….

I’ve found a reason to show, a side of me you didn’t know

A reason for all that I do…and the reason is YOU!!!!!

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~ by Neha Saboo Taparia on August 14, 2008.